THE BEGINING

When i was in my twenties .It was only darkness no light could be seen in my life, no way out. For those who were around  me they thought, the ultimate result will be only death. Every day I hardened up my self. I would never wish this kind of experience will occur to any young person or any person on this earth.. It did make me realized that life was going to be a tougher than i have thought.The murderers of  my mind were unknown and were disguised and no one there to take responsibilities over the dead works which i was involved ,millions perhaps……..uncountable.

I  was by no means a perfect son during this period of time.I was quite a rebellious and getting into trouble easily.One of my regrets then, is that in the years running up to my father’s death,which  occurred due to the sorrow brought him in our family concerning my mother, also he may have seen me as a rebellious and a selfish teenager. I often wonder what my father thought of his son when he saw me making such a mess of my life.I miss my father and can easily be overcome emotionally with the loss.I often think of the love my dad had for me.How he must have loved me as i love my son Joshua.It is a hard thing to loose your father so early on. It was a hard time for my father in our family as well as for my mother. .This time of the period, I had what turned out to be a decisive life change.I just went away  because of the pressure and horror prevailed in my family, not knowing what i should do.These circumstances brought me so much un resolved.  were forced  me to take wrong decisions and i  became very depressed without hope.One of the most difficult periods i have ever experienced.During these times it was very challenging and of course painful. My life was very raw during this time and  was often very angry at people or even at GOD.I thought my whole world fell apart. I made many mistakes.I might have looked fine on the outside but inside I was a broken, lonely man.Looking back to the years what i have done, what i have worked for being lost before my very eyes.

Now i am overwhelmed how much of an entrepreneurial spirit GOD had given me through these years(last 14 years) to see a change in me and people around me.

As I reflect on this time, it’s obvious to me that i had my misery which i had to go through because of my lack of knowledge about the truth.

REVENGE….

Un forgiveness of my heart brought me destruction. However, without wisdom and left unchecked, it eventually turned me into an enemy who hurt others, destroy anyone and disturbs the society, your own friends and even the dear ones and yourself.

Have you ever been angry at someone? Certainly, everyone has had anger rise up against a person. And there are a lot of people who are angry with themselves. Anger is a problem all of us have, in every society to deal with.I come from  a society where strife was just common. Our culture is so full of envy and strife that it’s become part of  our daily life. If you’ve lived very long, you can recall many terrible things that have happened  in this world, including personal tragedies and your  own affairs or your own family. And certainly every one of you have your own individual tragedy that you deal with or have dealt with. There is lot of hurt and pain in this world.  We don’t understand how deadly it is. But understand it or not, strife will destroy you or kill you. My experience with revenge I cannot explain here so much in this writing …………perhaps in my first ever book called THE PROMISE which is under construction may explain better!

……..revenge brought every evil in my past.You have no idea how deadly it is??? But I want you to listen to what the Bible had to say about envy and strife:

“For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.’’

Envy and strife bring every evil work. You could be doing all good, good works and even trusting God in many areas  of your life such as health, finances and relationships etc, but if you’re living in strife, you are opening the door to the devil ,which is sickness,poverty  and separation etc. You could be trying to take care of your body and meditating on healing scriptures, yet envy and strife will negate all of that and bring sickness and disease.

If you are trusting God for victory in any area of your life, the only way you can do it, ignore dealing with anger and expect to succeed. It’s that important.

This doesn’t mean we are supposed to be emotionless or totally passive people. There is a proper use of anger. If we do not have an understanding in this completely do away with anger, we will not succeed, and we will become passive in a way that allows  devil/satan to run over  our  lives. Christians means not just passive or emotionless people who do not be angry for anything.There is a godly anger for a purpose but never meant that for hurting people, absolutely not.As Christians we have learnt that how to behave towards our enemies and it quite differs from ALL other rules and methods, which generally aim at victory and dominion, but this at inward peace.Whoever are our enemies, our understanding is to do them all the good we can.Not to hurt them.

Bible says, ‘Recompense to no man evil for evil. This is what Christianity is all about.When you get to know GOD, who does so much for His enemies. If you do evil for evil you certainly loose him. By not recompensing evil for evil for evil, you perhaps gain him..

Anything that breathes love sweetens the blood.

GODLY ANGER-

Every  one of us has a temper. Why do you think that is? Do you think the devil created anger? No way! Satan never created anything. He doesn’t have the power to create. All he does is pervert the godly things God created. It’s God who gave us the capacity to get angry. Anger has a godly function not  ungodly. If it is ungodly you only ends up
with destruction to others and to yourself. With most of us, it’s been perverted. We don’t need to get delivered of a temper; we need to learn how to manage that anger and direct it the way God intended — not toward people, but toward the devil and evil.

There were many destruction in my life in the past before I met Jesus and accepted Him as my LORD and my Savior, There is no doubt that getting over anger quickly has a great benefit for others as for you. Confessing and forsaking anger  before you go to sleep every night is a good thing to do. But that is not what the Bible is  saying. It’s nearly the opposite.The godly anger  is given to us not to sin but to use it in a righteous way.  “Let not the sun go down on your wrath”. What happens when the sun goes down? Typically we stop working. The day winds down, and we rest and go to sleep.

Bible is saying,”Don’t let this godly anger ever stop working in you. Keep it awake. Stir it up and keep it active!””Neither give place to the devil”. If we don’t keep a godly anger active within us, we are giving place to the devil. If we do not understand this we become very passive and let the evil in this world rule over us. I had everything the world deems acceptable,beautiful  and successful  according to world views.But it was all built on sand with nothing underneath it. My revenge which was mischievous to the society, frighting to many, having hurt some brought only sorrow not life..In other words if you are offended,the life of GOD unable to release HIS presence in ones life.When you take offense, get hurt or try to take revenge, the life stop operating. Surely the fear torments you, anger drives you beyond understanding.

Jesus said this to HIS disciples,”These things have i spoken unto you,that you should not be offended’. He knew all things that were going to come upon HIM and going to come upon His followers. He came to His disciples to give them some final hour instructions before the most trying time they had ever experienced in their lives.It surpasses anything that YOU or I ever have or ever will experience.

If this doesn’t apply to you at this very moment, hang on……It will?

  Scripture that talks about a positive use of anger most often interpreted in a way that loses the true intent of what Paul was saying. Ephesians 4:26-27 says,

“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil”.

This is usually interpreted as, “God knows you are only human, and you will sometimes get angry. That just happens. But it doesn’t become sin unless you let it persist. So make sure you confess and forsake your anger every night before you go to bed.”

There is no doubt that getting over anger quickly has great benefit. Confessing and forsaking anger before you go to bed every night is a good thing to do. But that is not what this verse is teaching. It’s nearly the opposite.

Paul is saying there is a godly anger that is not sin. God gives us a command to get angry with a righteous anger. Then he says, “Let not the sun go down on your wrath”. What happens when the sun goes down? Typically we stop working. The day winds down, and we rest and go to sleep. Paul is saying, “Don’t let this godly anger ever stop working. Keep it awake. Stir it up and keep it active!” Then verse 27 continues, “Neither give place to the devil”. If we don’t keep a godly anger active within us, we are giving place to the devil. What a revelation!

There is a righteous use of anger. Not understanding this has rendered many Christians so passive, they don’t get mad at the evil in this world. Therefore, Satan is having a free shot at everything we hold dear and holy. Our society is under attack, and our righteous anger that God has given us as a weapon is kept in its sheath and not used. This needs to change.

Look at what the Word of God has to say about a right use of anger:

“Ye that love the LORD, hate evil”. (Psalm 97:10)

“The fear of the LORD [is] to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate”. (Prov. 8:13)

“The fear of the LORD [is] the beginning of wisdom”. (Psalm 111:10)

“The fear of the LORD [is] the beginning of knowledge”. (Prov. 1:7)

“Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good”. (Rom. 12:9)

These are just a few of the scriptures that speak of a righteous use of hate and anger. Look again at Proverbs 8:13: “Pride and arrogance, and the evil way, and the froward [literally, perverse] mouth, do I hate”. Do we really hate those things? We should, but Christians as a whole do not hate evil. We don’t like evil, but few would argue that we literally hate these things. Some Christians don’t believe that we are supposed to hate anything, but that’s not what God’s Word says.

Jesus was sinless, but He had hate and anger. In John 2:14-17, which took place at the beginning of Jesus’ earthly ministry, and then in Mark 11:15-17, which took place the last week of Jesus’ earthly ministry, Jesus drove the money changers out of the temple. He didn’t approach them meekly and say, “Guys, I’m sorry. I don’t want to hurt any of you, but I have to do this to obey my Father.” NO! He made a whip and beat the people and animals and turned over their tables. He was mad.

Where were the temple guards? I’m sure they were there, but Jesus was in a holy rage that paralyzed them from action. It’s certain that Jesus never sinned, but it’s also certain that He got very angry to the point of action. Therefore, there is a righteous anger. We need to discover the righteous use of anger and channel all of our aggression in the proper way. So, there is a right place for anger. But what about the wrong use of anger? All of us have to deal with getting mad at people. How do we overcome our unforgiveness and anger toward people?

UNGODLY ANGER

Have you ever prayed that the Lord would remove someone from your life who makes you angry? Have you ever prayed that your circumstances would change so that you would be delivered from those things that make you mad? If you have, you are not alone. But it’s not what others do to you that makes you angry. You will never be able to remove all aggravating things and people from your path. That’s unrealistic. Satan has more than enough people under his control to keep an endless parade of annoying people coming across your path.

You can’t always change circumstances, and you don’t have the authority to change others. But you can change what’s on the inside of you that makes you angry. That’s right. Our anger comes from the inside, not the outside. I know most people don’t like that. At first, it’s comforting to think that it’s what someone else did that made you angry, but that’s not true. If what other people do makes you angry, then you will always be angry because there will always be someone that treats you wrong. That makes you a victim and not a victor.

Accepting responsibility for your ungodly anger puts you in the driver’s seat. You only have total authority over yourself. You are the only one that you can really change. If you are trying to remove all the people and things that make you mad from your path, you will never win. But if you deal with the things inside you that cause your anger, you will never lose, regardless of what others do. That’s the example that Jesus gave us. He was able to look at the very ones who crucified and mocked Him and say,

“Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do”. (Luke 23:34)

Jesus not only suffered more than any of us ever have, He suffered more unjustly than we have. As God, He could have come off the cross at any time and wiped all of His accusers out. Yet He humbled Himself and even forgave His enemies. Some people think, “Well that was Jesus. I’m certainly not Jesus.” But Jesus wasn’t the only one who forgave those who wronged him. Stephen acted just like Jesus in Acts 7:60. As he was being stoned to death, he knelt down and cried with a loud voice,

“Lord, lay not this sin to their charge. And when he had said this, he fell asleep”.

Paul commanded us to do the same thing in Ephesians 4:32:

“And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you”.

Not only are we supposed to resist anger, but we are commanded to forgive those who trespass against us. We can’t control others, but we can control what’s inside of us that makes us angry. The key is found in Proverbs 13:10:

“Only by pride cometh contention”.

It’s not what others do to us that makes us angry; it’s the pride inside of us that causes us to get mad. I know that’s not what most people believe, but that’s what God’s Word says. This verse doesn’t say that pride is one of the major reasons for anger — it’s the only reason. What a statement!

I ministered this in Uppsala , Sweden many years ago, and a man came up to me after the meeting and said, “I’ve got a lot of problems, but pride isn’t one of them. If anything, I have such low self-esteem that I hate myself. Yet I have a lot of anger. I just don’t understand how my pride is the source of my anger.” What this man was missing was a proper definition of pride.

Many people think of pride only as arrogance. But that’s only one manifestation of pride. Timidity and shyness are extreme manifestations of pride. Pride, at it’s core, is simply self-contentedness or selfishness. Timid and shy people are extremely self-centered people. I know this to be true because I was an introvert. I couldn’t look at people in the face and talk to them. I was so consumed with me that I was always thinking, “What are they going to think of me? Am I going to make a mistake and look foolish?” That self-contentedness made me shy.

If you have a testimony about what the Lord has done for you that could help someone, yet you would be timid about getting on radio or television and sharing it because everyone would be looking at you, then you have some pride issues that haven’t been settled. You may not be called to broadcast on radio or television, but we are all called to, “be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear.” (1 Pet. 3:15)

So, pride is not only thinking we are better than others; pride can be thinking we are worse than others or just being self-conscious. It doesn’t matter if self is always exalting itself or if it’s debasing itself. It’s all self-contentedness, which is pride. Like it or not, understand it or not, pride is the source of all of our anger. As we deal with our own self-love, anger toward others will be defused. The only reason we are so easily offended is because we love ourselves so much. As we die to ourselves, we will be able to love others the way that Jesus did.